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Heather Caliri

I have done, and still am doing EC, and while I've found my own rhythm, it's not something I'd recommend for everyone. If you can do it with the attitude Moxie describes, great. If you are just slightly more type A, however, and you have a tendency to obsess or feel guilty about not doing things perfectly, then think twice. I think doing EC with a second child might be easier in the can't overdo it category. Good luck!

songbird

No kids here, but I was just talking about this with my dad (who is from India). He said that babies go diaperless, and as soon as anybody notices the kid is going or wants to go they quickly pick them up and put them on the potty. The kid soon learns what to do if they have to go. He said it works better when the baby can be naked all the time and when you always have someone watching, and as soon as you put diapers on a kid you lose some of that connection. But I think it's worth a try when I have my own kids. Keep them on hardwood or vinyl floors and naked whenever it's feasible, and put a diaper on and don't sweat it when it's not. Kids are brilliant, I'm sure they'll pick up on what they're supposed to do.

Heather Caliri

Also--not to toot my own horn, but an essay I wrote about this topic will be in the winter issue of Brain, Child. If you're interested, check it out.

alisa

I've never been interested in doing this, but in the first few months with our child (who we adopted) -- when she was between 10 and 12 months old -- we often found ourselves "catching a poop in mid-air" when we changed her diaper. We were making such an effort to understand her needs that we totally jumped the gun. It was pretty hilarious. Especially the first time it happened - in the courtyard of a Buddhist temple in Guangzhou, with an audience. Heh.

caramama

I am fascinated with EC, and I hope to start doing it with the Pumpkin. We just haven't gotten our act together yet.

But I have started to research it, and the DiaperFreeBabies site was highly recommended to me: http://www.diaperfreebaby.org/ There is a lot of good information on that site.

I hope to hear more from people who are/have been doing this!!

bridget

We tried it and it was going quite well, in terms of not having pee and poop all over the house when Silas was really young in the summer (july baby) because he was virtually naked anyway. But once it turned cold (we lived in Minnesota)it was impossible to actually catch any elimination. Still, because of the time he was diaperless, I was able to pick up on his signals and change the diapers quickly and I think that helped.
I did find that I had to let him go diaperless though or there was no way for pick up exactly what signals meant what. For what it's worth, he was toilet trained at two years

Andrea

I did quite a bit of research on this topic and decided NOT to do it because my DD would be in a daycare environment 5 days a week, though I have been paying attention when we are together because the communication is still there. Hopefully this will help when we do potty train.

I'm interested to see if anyone responds with an example of use with a child who spends most days in daycare.

Meika

I'm so glad that this question came up! My daughter is eight months old, and I've just begun to try some early "training" (using the word loosely, of course). I ran across something while pregnant that mentioned that babies were toilet trained much earlier even just fifty years ago in this country and that in much of the world kids are going on the potty by the time they're a year or eighteen months old even now. With a kid who blew out 95% of poopy diapers for the first six months of life, one might say it piqued my interest. :) I also ran across a suggestion that getting kids used to the idea of the potty before they hit the stubborn-independent-two-year-old phase was helpful. I've really not been sure how to approach this, though, as it's certainly not mainstream.

Anyway, I recently found my dad's "baby book" - a magazine the hospital sent home with my grandma full of advice on the best ways to raise a baby (circa 1947). It suggested sitting the baby on the regular toilet in front of you for about five minutes at certain times of the day. We've just begun (as in few days ago) doing this after her late-morning feeding, when she's likely to pee. So we'll see how it goes!

pnuts mama

i'm not doing it, but we will be starting PT one of these days. our ped rec'd sitting her bottomless on the potty 2x a day and read a book each time just to get her used to the idea (she's 26 months now). and i bought the cloth training undies. so, we're getting there.

i spend nearly every minute of the day with my kid, and for life of me, have no idea AT ALL when she is peeing. poop is easy- although sometimes she does walk by and i'm like, when did you poop? just now? anyway, the point of this is, for those of you who use EC, HOW DO YOU KNOW when your kid is peeing? or do i just have a kid that hides it well?

Anna

When my son was 6 months old, we started having major diaper leaks when he would wake up in the morning. We tried several diapers such as overnight disposables and a few different cloth diapers, but nothing helped. I'd read about EC when I was pregnant, so I thought I'd give it a try to see if it helped with the a.m. leaking. I bought a Baby Bjorn Little Potty and very shortly after waking (he usually comes into our bed around 4:30 a.m., so we wake up together in the morning) I put him on the potty and he pees a ton. Interestingly, his diapers are usually completely dry if I catch him in time which makes me think he doesn't usually pee during the night.

At 8 months old now, we've been having great luck and have expanded to the rest of the day as well. I can usually tell when he's going to pee or poop (two different indications), or at least I am aware when it happens so I can change his diaper.

We have taken a very relaxed approach to it, which I think is important. No pressure on anyone.

Anna

pnuts mama --

I think I might be lucky to have a kid (8 months old) who actually gives a pretty clear indication that he's peeing. Right before he goes he usually stops whatever he's doing and stares off into space. Then when he actually pees he makes kind of a short, quiet squeak. It's very subtle -- I really have to be right there with him to "catch" before he goes. And I only noticed he does this when I really started to pay attention.

But I've noticed lately that if I put him on the potty just because I think it's a time when he might need to go, he does pee right away. I think he might be catching on.

Thembi

We're now ec'ing our 2nd daughter, and I can't imagine doing things any other way. I truly feel that it's the most respectful way to handle a child's pee and poop, I certainly don't want to sit in mine, why would I ask a little baby to? Both girls have shown an amazing capacity to control their bladders/bowels from a very early age and it has definitely helped my husband and I to better listen to and understand all of the girls' needs, not just those related to elimination.

Harriet's Mom

I EC my three month old daughter and I can't imagine doing it any other way at this point. I work, so we do most of our "catching" in the morning and evenings when I can give her attention. While I'm working or when we go out, she's in diapers. I "miss" a poop less than once a week--which I think is great! :-)

mslaura

I have done EC with two kids now. My first was out of diapers at 13 months, though he still had accidents of course. He went to daycare for a while. Yes, you can do this part-time, even if you work outside the home. Some is better than none.

I am now ECing my second child, who is almost 9 months old. It's easier this time around, because I am way relaxed about it and know how the ups and downs go.

Pees are hard to catch sometimes when I get busy, but we get about 95% of his poops in the toilet, which is awesome. I hate changing poopy diapers, and he hates having them, so everybody's happy.

We have morning potty time with me, baby and 3.5 yo, it's a lot of fun. I sit on the toilet first, then I put a reducer on for my 3.5yo while the baby sits on his potty and plays with toys. Everyone has a good time and it's good modeling for them to see pottying, wiping, washing hands, etc.

Anyone can do that first morning potty session with their child, and that's the time of day when babies pee the most, so it's almost guaranteed success.

I wrote a primer on how to do EC part-time, and how to go about it if you work outside the home. Enjoy!
http://www.viviente.com/2005/10/how_to_do_parttime_pottytraini_1.html

Jenn

Definitely doable, and definitely not more work than it's worth! Go for it!

The nice thing is that you can do it part-time. I don't use daycare, but I work 20 hours a week, and my sitters don't do EC with the baby (5 months old now), so we're almost in the same situation. It's been no problem -- she just goes in her diapers with them, and she knows that I'll take her to the potty.

It's as much work as you make it. In the beginning I was only doing it 1-2 hours / day, since I was overwhelmed as a new mom. We've kind of eased into it, and now I do it all the time that I'm with her. I even have a potty in the car so we can do it while we're out and about. Now that I've got the hang of it, it's hardly any work at all, and saves me SO much laundry (we use cloth diapers), especially since she still poops several times a day. I have maybe 1 poop diaper a week; the rest goes in the potty.

If you're worried about how much work it is, I'd also recommend keeping the baby in diapers for much / most of the day while you're getting the hang of it or busy, etc. This takes the pressure off -- then if you miss one, no big deal; it's just in the diaper, like it would be anyway if you weren't ECing.

It's been SO much fun. She looks so cute sitting on the potty, and I really think she likes it. She usually smiles a big smile while she's going.

Charndra

Hi, yes I'm another who thinks it is a lovely way to enhance the bond you share with your baby. We have practiced it from birth and I love it. We've learnt so much about our son.

My hubby has been on board before day one - anything that keeps baby closer to what they'd 'expect' biologically - that was what he was into, just like me.

I've shared my EC experiences at a website, http://www.tribalbaby.org

Give it a go if you are at all intrigued - you can only grow from the experience.

You know, in two years, we spent less than $5 a month on nappy stuff - and that is averaged out as you'll use lots in the early days and then less over time as you and baby become more aware of each other.

I could never use nappies/ diapers full time ever again. It would be impossible!

Charndra

Julie

grunt-grunt-strain-crosseyes-poop
gurgle-gurgle-hiccup-waaaaaaah-puke

Those are the only two signals I know....so I'm impressed. I can't even imagine how to tell when my son's peeing, or about to pee.

Who knew? I love it!

karis

My baby girl would poop all the time when she was nursing. How would you handle that?

Carmen

Freakin' fascinating. I learn so much in the forum. Okay so I obviously know nothing and need to read up on it more and I don't think the hubby will be into it, but wow... such a neat idea. I notice that every time I put the big boy in his bathtub he pees. Perhaps I should be sitting him on the potty first I would have NEVER thought to do this with a 7 month old. So much to learn.

sue

I have not ec'd, but have a friend who does and it's working really well for them. When they're out (unless they're at a friend's house who doesn't mind), they keep the baby in cloth diapers, and when at home, shes bottomless (they just keep her warm in upstate NY winters - november baby). They promptly change the diapers so she doesn't have to sit in her waste. It seems like a really great idea, and they never have pee and poop on the floor when I visit (frequently) It's gotten to where they can make the shh'shh sound and the baby pees on cue. Pretty cool!

We chose to cloth diaper our daughter and start potty training soon after she could walk - around 14 months. She was daytime trained by 18 months, but is still not night trained now at a little over 3. So there you have it :-) We're hoping to do the same (but with better night success) with our son, who is 7mo.

Good luck, and go for it!

Melissa

Sigh. I so wanted to do this but hubby was not into it and he's stay-at-home dad. Its good to know we can start at any time and can also do it part time. I know my 14 month old is curious - she always follows me into the bathroom and then wants to check out the toilet when I'm done. So hopefully evenings and weekends can be a start. She pees a LOT during the night so that's not really an option for us, nor is morning time, as I get up at 5:30 a.m. to get to work and she usually sleeps in with dad until 8 or 9.

Maybe once she learns to go in the toilet when she's with me and dad is still stuck changing poopy diapers he'll want to get on board!

Katy

If you are interested in "early training/learning" but not quite EC, I suggest the book "Diaper Free Before Three" http://www.amazon.com/Diaper-Free-Before-Healthier-Toilet-Diapers/dp/0307237095/ref=pd_bbs_1/105-0906041-1007617?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1192056033&sr=8-1 - it gives a lot of interesting developmental info and support for earlier training, and a great plan to get started. I followed / am following many of her ideas with my first child.

At 12 months - basically once he could walk - we started putting my son on the potty once a day, just to get him used to the idea and have the potty feel familiar. He did pee a few times, but mostly just sat and looked at books. At that point I was almost 4 months pregnant, and unfortunately once I was 6 months along (and preparing to move to a new house) I gave up on it for awhile.

Now he is 21 months, and a few weeks ago we started putting him on the potty before baths (because he had peed on the bathroom floor several times in the past while waiting to get into the bath), and then started doing it before/after naps and at bedtime as well. Since then he has only actually gone in his potty a few times, but he talks about poop and pee a lot and constantly wants to sit on the potty (often as a stalling tactic during diaper changes, but whatever gets him on there!) My main goal at this point is to avoid turning it into a power struggle, as seems to happen so often with 2 to 3 year olds, and to just get him used to the process and the language that goes along with toileting. We celebrate hugely when he actually goes in the potty, so hopefully he will soon make the connection and start going more intentionally there.

I'm enjoying hearing others' experiences/advice, and considering starting even earlier with my younger son (now 4 months old).

Alexandra

I've ECed my 4 month old from 2 1/2 weeks on. At the very least I potty her every time she wakes up (often after feeding), strains or passes gas, comes home, is about to go out, or is about to take a bath. She doesn't show any pee cues really. It's all about offering the potty at the right time.

Honestly, even if you just held him/her over or on the potty at regular diaper change times and made a pee noise when you saw your baby pee, you could establish EC enough to start to see benefits. Once your baby starts to make the connection, you can potty him/her before getting in the tub--voila, no poopy/pee bath! Then you try before you leave the house, and know you won't have a poopy blowout that slows you down. I wish more people knew how much more fun and convenient even a little EC can be. We get a kick out of a poop or pee in the potty. Who can say that about dirty diapers?

Lisa

Just wanted to second the recommendation for _Diaper Free Before Three_. I found it after my daughter had already turned two, but based on the book's recommendation (for children age 2+), we tried eliminating all diapers all at once -- and it worked! At 2 years 2 months, she is fully toilet trained (no diapers, even at nap and night). The concept of "no more diapers" is so clear that she seemed to find it easy to understand. I'm pregnant now with child #2, and I plan to follow the book's suggestions for introducing the toilet at six months as part of a very gradual training process.

Me

Wow, what's with today? This was on the Today show this morning AND on parent hacks too!

So I have a question along the lines of pnut's mama - I have stealthy pee-ers and poopers. I am with both my boys, 1 & 2, virtually all the time, and can't for the life of me figure out when they're going. I am expecting #3, and would love to potty train all three at once (did I really just say that?) and have no idea how I would even go about figuring out how my infant was giving "pee" communication. Am I missing it? Is there a video someone can recommend? I'd love to read into it, but as I mentioned, I have a 1 & 2 yr old, and am pregnant. So I spend most of my spare time sleeping. :-)

Beth

I've been ECing part time since la pequena was about two months. It's hardly perfect, and one of the sites (diaperfreebaby.com, I think) described EC as 'one step backward for every three steps forward'. I definitely feel that way some days, but on the other hand, every pee or poo I catch is another victory (I make a game every day of going as long as possible with the same cloth diaper on her). She wears cloth the rest of the time, and we usually have five diapers or so a day, rarely with poo.

But yeah, when we're traveling, she wears disposible. I give her every opportunity when I can, and she at least tries every time I do, but yes, sometimes she's stuck in a wet diaper until I can stop and change her. I'm comforted by the fact that she knows what the potty is for--and I also love the look on family and friends' faces when they realize that my sub-6-mo-old is pottying on the big toilet (my old roommate stopped people on her morning walk to tell people about it after she saw it)!

We still operate on a largely timing-based program, but there are definitely times when I don't necessarily recognize cues, but I 'feel' I should let her try. I'm frequently not disappointed.

I'd agree with the folks here who've said that it's worth any effort you can put into it, but not to stress if you miss or if you can't do it all the time.

mezzaluna

i EC'd my first - from 3.5 months - he was out of diapers by 16 months, but EC was an entree into a philosophy of child-rearing that has lasted beyond the diapering days. i'd actually suggest it for a type-A personality with an open mind... because it might help you give up on the type-A-ness ;) it's certainly challenged me a lot, but in good ways that have helped me grow.

that said, i'm having more trouble with my second child :( i think it's because she's more continent than my son ever was - she can hold it more than 45 minutes after waking up...and has been this way since birth. he at least always had those reliable after-waking pees that we could count on to reinforce our communication. so i have to simultaneously really focus on her and tune in to her - hard to do with another kid around! - and keep the pressure off, off, off - she hates pressure or any anxiety from me. another challenge!

our biggest practicality is that with both of them i let them go around in coverless fitted diapers a lot - so i could tell right away when they wet, but didn't end up with puddles... or streaks... all over the place. it was a good balance for my sanity and need to be aware of their elimination.

sweetisu

I grew up in a culture where EC is very common, until this day. I did not use this method on our 2 children though.

I always thought the shh-shh sound was mimicking the sound of running water :) For anyone who are in need to go, if they hear the faucet running, it will make them want to go even more.

Karen G

I use disposables or gDiapers and I offer the potty to my 4 mo. old son as often a I'm able .. but usually at times I would normally check his diaper anyway. After his naps, I nurse him and then take him to the changing table. I keep the little Baby Bjorn potty right on the table. I remove the diaper & put him on the potty - he goes every time. Many times i'll try again in an hour or before naps. its amazing .. he really seems to know when to go .. most of his diapers have been dry when removing them. So far, not reading any cues .. we shall see.

I did this w/my daughter 2 years ago. it also worked well .. but we went through "potty pauses" once she started crawling, walking, etc. We also had a nanny who did not take her and we kind of fell out of it - but we just completely trained her at her 2nd bday.

m

I had considered doing it with my son, but haven't yet. He's now 18 months. Am I too late for EC? Or would I be just PT at this point?

Sandrala

We "potty" our almost 12m DD and have been doing so since she was born. We don't think of it as training, just giving her the opportunity to go in the potty (or sink or bowl or a wee in the garden). We do a lot of nakey butt time, but also use cloth and even disposable diapers - whatever works best at the time. It's fun! And we hardly ever have a poopy diaper to change. The poo goes in the toilet where it belongs and her bum needs just a little wipe. So it is also very hygienic (sometimes called "natural infant hygiene). Just last week, she commnicated her need to poo with the potty sign for the first time. It is a really nice way to connect with a child.

Someone posted a question about pottying while nursing. It is possible to nurse with a bowl under the bum. We use an EC potty bowl for nighttime nursing. Babies do not eliminate while they are sleeping so she stays dry until she wakes up to nurse (help Moxie!). I put the bowl between my legs, and while she is nursing remove her diaper. She will pause when she needs to pee.

We catch nearly all of her poo, but miss a lot of the pees. It's okay. We all are just enjoying the process.

There are moms who do it part time because of day care or whatever.

We live in a warm climate which makes it easier, but it is still possible elsewhere.

We know a mom who started at 4 months. Her son is now 14 months and has been totally diaper free for 10 months.

There are many possible variations depending on what is most comfortable for your family.

Janey Jefferson

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOUR BABY IS GOING?? I'd like to answer that question with another question: How do you know when your baby is hungry? Tired? Upset?

When Nelly was first born, and she would cry, I would think "what's wrong? is she hungry? no. tired? She won't sleep. Maybe she's cold. Oh, she IS hungry."

As she got older, it was easier to tell what she needed. Since I DIDN'T IGNORE her need to eliminate, I learned that cue, too.

If you don't respond to babies cue to pee, THEY WILL STOP GIVING IT! I think that's why you moms of older children say you don't know when they are going to pee...it's because they've stopped giving the cue since it didn't get answered.

Visit www.diaperfreebaby.org for more info, DVDs, books, etc!

Happy pottying!

Janey Jefferson

Oh yes, one more thing... if your child has stopped giving cues, and you want to try EC, you simply need to help them again become AWARE of their need to eliminate. Put them in cloth diapers so you know as soon as they've gone so you can give immediate feed back. Or camp out in the kitchen for a few hours a day and go "nakey butt."

hedra

Most older kids I saw in China were ECers, and most had intensely subtle cues. So they may still cue, but it may be very subtle. The pause and stare thing is a common one, from what I saw (especially with boys, it seems). Kind of like they're looking inside instead of out. With one girl whose family I traveled with on a train in China (she was 2, and still definitely not 'potty trained'), I asked them how they knew what the signs were. The dad could not even articulate it. He said that he just KNEW, as soon as she knew she needed to go, he knew she needed to go. They didn't analyze it at all, they just had experience with not knowing (and therefore cleaning up the mess) and with knowing (and therefore being rewarded with relief themselves, as there was no mess to clean up). If you take off their diapers, you may develop a better picture of the cues. Some kids just ARE subtle, but that doesn't mean we can't pick up on it anyway. My kids don't have typical signs of an ear infection, so I learned to spot the signs from slight drop in appetite plus increase in ear wax leakage from ear, or one instance of finger in ear in a 24-hour period, if it was done in a certain way.

My boys are late sensers (genetic trait), so they don't know until they MUST GO NOW(!!!). Nada until it is urgent for them. They still have cues, and I've been gradually trying to teach them their other cues (for B, he tends to have an urge to 'adjust himself' about 20 minutes before he HAS to pee - probably the bladder pressure changes the blood flow to his parts, long before it hits the nerves that signal bladder fullness).

We didn't go this route. But I've seen it work very nicely. It doesn't guarantee an earlier training age, but it also allows for a much earlier one if your child is at all inclined that direction.

O

So interesting. Had never heard of EC with son 1 (who is almost 4) and too bad, b/c I always knew when he was eliminating anything. Son 2, OTOH, gave almost no indications whatsover until he was about 18 months and we were PTing Son 1. And I tried with him. His cousin, who was slighly older, has been tinkling on the potty since a very young age since *his* sister was PTing and so she went to the toilet, he went to the potty, and the miracle occured. So yes, I'm sure it's possible with any kid. But every kid is very different. Son 2 is now vaguely interested in going and standing at the potty, taking the deep breath, etc., but doesn't actually tinkle. He'll get there.
Good luck to everyone. Just from my two kids, though, I know that like everything else, there are some kids who are just easier to tell than others. And if you have a private one, don't beat yourself up over it; just hope s/he takes that privacy interest well in to toddlerhood!

Aletheia

Don't think of it as some new-fangled thing.

Think of it as an extension to diapering.

(And enjoy many, many fewer poopy diapers. :) )

Good luck, mama.

caramama

Just to share: You all inspired me to start trying EC. This morning, I tried sitting the Pumpkin on the toilet. She looked confused, and then her face screwed up and she started balling! I think the regular toilet is too big and scary for her. I'm going to look into one of those Bjorn baby potties... Hmmm...

Yvonne

My mother worked full time, so I was cared for by a family friend. Both my mother and the family friend (who was older) grew up on neighboring farms. I'm not sure when she began the potty training, but I'm told I was no longer wearing diapers at 9-10 months (with occasional accidents). The other children this woman cared for were potty trained at approximately the same age. Now that I'm a mother of a four-month-old, I was asking my mother about why the training started so early then. She said they were all used to having to work on the farm and everyone had plenty of chores to do (in the days of hand washing and everyone using cloth diapers) so they had more of an incentive to try early training. I'm 33, by the way. Just found the comment about people training children earlier fifty years ago interesting ...

J.

There is a middle ground. With my twin daughters, I had them on the toilet whenever I could tell they were pooping (generally, this has much clearer signs) from six-eight months or so forward. I changed, hm, maybe three poopy diapers from the time they were ten months until they were potty trained. By the time they were walking, they went to the toilet to poop themselves very consistently (10-11 months or so).

With pee we just didn't stress over. It became clear they had control over their pee at some point (just before they were 2), so we started going to the toilet to try about every 90 minutes. Sometimes it worked, sometimes not. Gradually (over the period of a couple months), they started catching on, and using the toilet to pee by themselves (big praise here, of course).

Now they're not three yet, and totally diaper free. We never had any battles over it (though we did have a little regression - soon self-corrected - when we moved house), there was almost no stress, and we're 100% diaper free (naps and bedtime included). I never had to worry about figuring out their signals (good lord, with two I can't even imagine), since I started the poop toilet training with them when it was still glaringly obvious, and everything else happened quite naturally.

Wannabe ECer

We were having so much fun with part time EC'ing from about 6 months old I think - dd would do pees and poos on the potty about 3 times a day. Then she got to about 12 months, more mobile and from then on she has fought it! She also hates having her nappy changed, the lying down bit she just hates.

So i dunno, will prob leave it a bit longer. Don't want to make an issue out of it. She is now 19 months. Would love to start potty training her this summer though. Maybe just leaving her nakey bottoms will help.....

Charndra from Part Time Diaper Free!

Wow, good to see this article is still sending visitors to my Tribal Baby site 2 years later!

I have some more resources now, linked into my name there, and they focus on part-timing - the way people start to EC.

Charndra

agt

Shes only two potty training is sotmehing, I personally believe, that can not be pushed. Your daughter will be ready when she is ready. Suggestions. Praise works, diff types of praise work with diff kids, sticker boards, an m&m Jus depends on the child. Also having the child sit on the potty seemed to work for me, before he started potty training he sat on his potty every night before bath and then it jus became for frequent. Once he started using his potty I frequently (every half hour) took him to the potty, after a while the time grew btw trips until he started going on his own. Took a couple weeks to get it down. GLReferences :

sci

I would say that she is still too young to go full time with out dieraps on. I would keep her in dieraps but keep asking her to use the potty and see if she will go periodically during the day. I wouldn't say its being lazy, its regression because she was too young to start with. Pull-ups are dieraps. They just get pulled on instead of taped on, but still dieraps. I potty trained my son with regular tape dieraps and did not use pull-up dieraps.References :

Lhennott

Yay Ty!! Ella is FINALLY getting the potty copecnt as well. She has been without diapers since Saturday and only one accident. However she still won't tell us when she has to go! Only when she needs to poop. She'll just hold it until we make her go. Oh well. It will all click one day right?

Brenss

Kristy - We didn't use them for very long, but I do recommend them. Here's why no, they don't help as far as potty tranniig and feeling dry, BUT they can put the power in Iliya's hand by making him feel successful. After all, if he feels dry in spite of an accident but can feel the success of the ACT to going to the potty like a big boy , then he's going to want to do it more and the real success of potty tranniig will come naturally.Once you're moved and settled (which I am still in mourning over, for the record), you can work on helping him have success (and an appropriate amount of failure) in real underwear. Using pull-ups for LONG periods of time is something that you definitely don't need to get into, but while he's interested and trying to use the potty I think it's a good tool to empower him and make him feel successful!Guess mine was more like 10 cents, too :) love, Aunt KiKi

Adarsh

Aubrey - They are more expensive (ugh!) but with cnopuos (and those are everywhere) it's not horrid. And the independence gained and the time saved by not having to do extra laundry, clean carpets, bathrooms, yadda, yadda, yadda, it is totally worth it. And they are generally only for a short season. We used them during the day for about a week, then went overnight with them until each child learned the control he/she needed. With Sarah Grace, that was only about two weeks. With Thomas, it's been nearly 18 months, between health issues and just being a heavy sleeper, but I think we are finally out of them. Just in time for Elizabeth to start

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Some cultures do a little "shh-shh" noise when the baby pees, and when the baby is old enough to say "shh-shh" they can tell the adult when they need to pee.

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