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meghan

My resolutions were mostly personal rather than parental, because I feel like some of my personal hang ups are keeping me from being my best mom self. Does that count??? :)

The weight gain issue is a touchy one. Cole has always struggled with his weight (he's 22.5 lbs as he rounds the corner into 2 yrs), unrelated to his main health issue. I know a million ways to help him gain while sticking with healthy food, so the ranch dressing suggestion is particularly disturbing. (I can go into detail if Moxie wants me to, and I have ranted a bit about it in my blog at various times as well.)

Cole was: 5.75 at birth, 14 at 6 months and crawled at 7 months, and then 19 at 1 year. But that's the pattern of a kid that's truly underweight, that needs to keep gaining. He still has plateaus, in fact I think he's in one now, but I know what I need to do to boost him out of it (and it'a little different for 6 months versus 12 months versus 16 months, I've found).

If the doctor is so concerned, try a few healthy tweaks to the diet and then ask for weight checks at 7 and 8 months before the 9 month visit.

Cat, Galloping

I threw up a little in my mouth when I read the cheetos and ranch dressing thing.

Birth: 9+ lbs, 6 months: 19+lbs, crawled at 8.75 months; 1 year: 24 lbs

My new year's resolution is to focus completely on work when I'm working, so that I can focus without stress on the baby when I'm not. Which I guess means I'd better go. Seeya!

Leah

Cheetos and ranch dressing?!?! That is disgusting.

My baby isn't crawling yet and is still in the chunking-up stage (she was 16 lbs 4 oz at 4 months), but our ped has told us so much bad breastfeeding advice it makes me shiver that they are telling this to other parents who are not as informed. My current favorite was that I have to start solids at 4 months (um, no.) because she is "so big," and she should be nursing only 4 times a day and sleeping through the night by 6 months.

Yeah, I'm switching peds to one recommended by a like-minded friend. I'm tired of having to ignore half of their advice every visit.

Heather AKA Epiphany Alone

Timely as always, Moxie. My ped expressed some concern that Lindsay only gained 5 ounces at her last visit...but he suggested we add a third meal of solid foods (cereals, fruits, and veggies) and continue nursing on demand.

Anyway...Keep in mind that my husband and I are small people - my kids are consistently in 5-10th percentile.

Lindsay (current age: 7 1/2 months)
Birth: 6 lbs 9 oz; 6 mo: 13 lbs 10 oz; crawling at 6 1/2 mo

Lauren (current age 4, 30 lbs)
Birth: 4 lbs 4 oz; 6 mo: 13 lbs 10 oz; crawling at 7 mo; 1 yr 18 lbs 8 oz.

Leah

Oops, I was so annoyed about the ped thing I forgot to leave my resolution.

My husband and I are going to try not to swear in front of the baby. It's never going to happen, but if we can just switch to "melon-farmer" some of the time, I'll call it a win.

Shandra

My son was 6 lbs 2 oz at birth, went down to 5 lbs 3 oz (!!), 13 lbs at 6 months, took a dip in gaining when he started crawling at 9 months, and was 18.5 at 1 year. My doctor has never been concerned about minor slow downs & says every baby has their own curve.

My main resolution is to have more fun. This first year and a half of parenting (after perinatal loss) has felt really fraught and I want to ease up a bit and enjoy it more. For concrete goals I want to eat more whole foods, do mother-level exercise 3 times a week (as opposed to toddler meandering walks), and get a babysitter for more regular hours so my work time bleeds less into All The Rest Of Life. :)

Susanne

I have this feeling that the advice to stop breastfeeding is given very often. Obviously it seems to be good for getting babies to sleep and to gain weight, oh, and for crying less - NOT!

Weight of my son at birth: 6.7 lbs (3030 g), at 7 months: 17.2 lbs (7800 g), at 12 months: 19 lbs (8650 g) learned to crawl at exactly 8 months

I didn't remember that there were so many medical checkups during the first year. (We're living in Germany.) His height was always on the 50% mark and he was considered to be light but not underweight. Seeing what Meghan wrote about Cole I wonder if maybe American and German charts are different. (At 2 years he was 22.5 lbs and at 4 he is 33 lbs. Underweight. Pfft!)

Oh, and the resolutions. I don't do this as a New Year thing but all the year round. I want to become more aware and in the moment with my son, and more patient and fun.

iheartnewyork

My resolution: try to leave the work stress at work (or car) so I can be a better parent when I arrive home after a long day (and commute).

I am stunned by that food advice -- from doctors!? Unbelievable. Our pediatrician told us kids tend to level out at about 6 months old and settle into a pretty consistent growth percentile. That has definitely been the case with both our kids.

#1 (boy): 8.6 lbs birth; crawled at 8 1/2 months; about 30 lbs. at 1 year old. Has been 95th percentile for weight and 90th for height since 6 months old -- he's now a tall 8 year old (and about 80 lbs.).

#2 (girl): 7.4 lbs. birth; crawled at 9 months; 18 lbs. at 1 year old. Has been between 25th and 50th percentile for weight and 75th for height since 6 months old -- she's now almost 6 years old (and about 38 lbs.). Long and skinny.

PumpkinMama

No resolutions here, other than best efforts to dodge PPD this time around and make it through year #1 with babe #2.

My #1s stats:
Birth--7lbs 11oz, 6mo--21lbs 9oz, 1year--25lbs 3oz
crawled at 9mos, nursed for just shy of 3years

Liza

Moxie, does it seem like all your readers have either tiny or extra-large babies? My son Noah is of the extra-large variety.

Birth: 9 lbs, 7oz, 21.5"
6 Months (+ a few days): 17 lbs, 10 oz, 27.75"
Crawling: 9 days after 6 month ped appt.
9 Months +/-: 20 lbs, 9 oz, 30.5"

Personally, I think he keeps gaining because most of his calories are going to getting taller.

I also think it helps that his favorite food, after breastmilk, is cheese. We alternate between shredded mozzerella and cheddar, and we learned over Christmas that it doesn't matter how sick he is, Noah will eat cheese if it is offered. Even if he pukes it back up 2 minutes later.

We're still not going to feed him cheetos. That is just wrong, not to mention IMO a choking hazard.

In our house, instead of just "resolutions" we also create a possibility for the new year for the entire family. 2007's is the possibility of vitality, discovery, and fun. In that context, we are looking at specific healthier eating and exercising, as well as finding new fun "stuff to do" with Noah.

iheartnewyork

Oh -- forgot to mention -- my son was breastfed for about 6 months (then given formula until 12 months) and my daughter was breastfed for 14 months (no formula).

Julie M

James was nursed until 13 months and started solids around 7-8 months:

birth: 8.5 pounds
6 months: 17.75 pounds
1 year: 20.75 pounds

Amy

I never make resolutions b/c they never get kept... but my "goal" for this year is to get my kids outside more. Ever since the move they've proclaimed the new yard to be "boring". Not sure what gives... but my goal is to make the yard more fun.

As for ped/weight advice. I'd fall on the floor if I heard my ped. say something about my kids not gaining enough weight. She always told me my kids' "heft" would fall off when they started crawling and more so when they started walking. She was right.

Ally

My resolution is to enjoy the terrible 2s more than I let them frustrate me.

I don't have Jamie's stats at work.

cagey

My 14 month old is still nursing. He started crawling at 8 months. He began solids around 6 months, but was always more of a snacker than an eater until he was around a year old. I tried not to sweat it because consistently I was told by my doctor that eating solids is just a "skill to be learned" before a year old - ie. the primary source of nutrition should be breastmilk and/or formula until 12 months. It's holding true because now NURSING is his snack and solids are his meals. The book Baby411 also supports that statement which helped me to worry less.

Birth: 7.7 lb
6 months: 17 lb, 13 oz
12 months 19 lb, 14 oz

anastasiav

Jeez. Is it any wonder that Americans are so obese, with our doctors giving advice like that? Holy crap.

Our son was 8lbs 1oz / 21 1/2 inches when he was born, and is now (at 5 1/2 months) around 18 lbs-ish and 25 1/2 inches. No crawling yet (he's a little young). He's a big, sturdy guy to be sure, but his dad is 6' 6" and I'm close to 5' 10". He's also 80% formula fed and 20% breast, because I'm BFAR and only produce about 6-8 oz of milk per day.

I'm gearing up for a fight with our ped when we go in for his 6 month check in Jan. She wanted us to start him on solids at 4 months (her reasoning being solid food would be as good/better than the formula, which I really can't fault her for) but I didn't feel he was developmentally ready. We're going to start him on solids at 6 months (although he already wants to drink from whatever cup or glass his father or I might be holding at any given time), but I suspect that his Ped is going to give us a hard time about that. Oh well, I'm the parent, right?

Mary Beth

I'm a regular lurker and infrequent commenter, but I'm so disgusted by the Cheetos and ranch dressing advice I decided I had to post.

Joshua's stats are as follows:
Birth--9 lbs., 5 oz; 6 months--18 lbs., 12 oz; 1 year--21 lbs., 6 oz. Crawling at 8 months; walking at 11 months. Still breastfeeding at 13.5 months. No solids until 6 months.

I was concerned that Joshua had dropped from the 75th percentile in weight at birth to the 25th percentile at one year. My pediatrician said, "I've watched him this whole time we've been talking and he hasn't stopped moving yet. He's burning every calorie he consumes. He's fine." Granted, my pediatrician is a mother of six, all of whom she breastfed. The last two she breastfed exclusively (no solids AT ALL) until they were a year old, just to see if she could do it. She's my hero.

We've had three pediatricians. The first was an old guy who thought I was an idiot for nursing and kept trying to get me to switch to formula. The second one I chose because my LC recommended her, and when we moved out of the area I intentionally chose another pediatrician who was an advocate of breastfeeding. I think it's the only way to win.

I'm not surprised doctors are doling out this advice. I'm amazed by the women on my birth board at Babycenter who feed their kids fast food because they were told they need to "fatten up their kids."

Sally

Here are the stats for my gigantic boy. He was breastfed for just over two years, and started eating baby food at six months. Our pediatrician said he exactly followed the growth pattern of a breastfed baby, which is very different from the steep growth curve of a formula fed baby. The WHO has growth charts for breastfed babies that can be quite revealing to pediatricians who only look at the US charts.

Birth: 11 lbs (off the charts)
6 months: 19 lbs 11 oz (75th percentile)
crawled about a week after his 6 month b-day
1 year: 23 lbs 14 oz (55th percentile)

I know the numbers look large because of his huge birth weight (no diabetes - just really large baby genes). However, he gained 8+ lbs in the first 6 months, but only 4 lbs in the second six months. It seems like that 2:1 ratio for weight gain in the two halves of the first year is common for breastfed babies.

Charisse

My resolution is to do a better job of writing more poetry by worrying less about it! And (jointly with Mr. C) to keep to the strategy we originally outlined for parenting Mouse gently, and help each other not worry about our particular twitchy issues.

Mouse's data might be interesting since she crawled so late(girl, started solids at 5 mo due to interest, crawled at 12 months, nursed until 2 years):

Birth: 7 lb 14 0z
2 weeks: 8 lb 13
2 months: 13 lb
4 months: 16 lb 4
6 months: 18 lb 7
9 months: 19 lb 7
1 year: 21 lb 4
2 years: 29 lb 1

Our pedi said the first-year pattern was "classic breastfed baby"--apparently many of them show real fast gain in the first few months and then slide back to the approximate percentile they were at birth...crawling or no crawling.

Bobbi

Stats first:

Jenna - 7 lb 8 oz at birth, 19+ lbs at 6 mos, crawled at 7 mos and walked at 13, 21 lb at 1 year.

Jack - 7 lb 12 oz at birth, follwed Jenna's pattern + 1 lb

Julia - 7 lb 15 oz at birth, 20 lb at 6 mos, crawled at 9 and walked on her first bday when she was 27 lb!!!!! But at 15 mos she wasn't quite 28 lb, so she slowed down later.

They were all breast fed (Jack for only 6 weeks tho) with solids started between 5 and 6 months, very slowly. Jack had stomach issues, so he was probably the last to start solids. I'm due in a couple months with number 4, and I'm hoping Julia is an anomaly, beacause my back is breaking! But my ped has never worried. I'm right there with your reader who said that the cheetoh's and ranch dressing thing made her throw up a little - the cheetohs alone was enough for me!

As for resolutions, it's to yell less, but make myself heard more. Any suggestions on just how I can do that would be greatly appreciated!

the boxing octopus

Is the pediatrician who suggested Cheetos and ranch dressing secretly Britney Spears?

flea

Daughter: birth 8lb 0oz, 6m 17lb 12oz, 9m 22lb, crawled at 9 months, 1 year 23lb 9oz. Now about 40 inches and 36 pounds at 3.5. Breastfed to 2.5 years; solids started at 5 months.

Son: birth 8lb 10oz, 4m 15lb 11 oz, now 5.5 months and not crawling. Exclusively breastfed, and still doing the tongue-thrust rejection with solids.

My pediatrician has never expressed any concern about my kids' sizes; they have been pretty consistent as far as %iles go, and my husband and I are both very tall and slim.

My parenting resolution is to be more active on the weekends and not to think that sitting around the house will be relaxing. With my kids, going someplace and doing something is more relaxing than trying to 'relax' - it eats up their energy.

On a topic that has been mentioned here - my daughter, otherwise potty-trained, has spent the last 6 months only pooping in a pull-up or her panties. She's pooped in the toilet of her own volition on 3 of the last 4 days - without us doing anything at all. I guess she was finally ready. And boy am I happy about it.

Much More Than A Mom

We're still nursing lots at 8.5 months...

Birth: 7lbs and a bit. 6 mos: just about 16 lbs. Crawling since 7.5 months and is nearly 20 lbs. now

Jessica

Ok-here's my son's stats...
birth 7.4 lbs, 20" 6m- 13.6 lbs, 26" 9m- 17 lbs, 27"
crawled at 8 m, pulls himself to standing at 9m

There was a really tough period from 4-6 months where he was still breastfed exclusively while I was also pregnant. I continually asked about the weight loss and whether my milk supply had decreased b/c I was pregnant, but got only reassurances from the helsesøster & midwife (I live in Norway) that it should not be a problem. When we finally started supplementing with formula, cereal and solids he started to gain again. It was a *huge* relief. Anyway, I continued to breastfeed him up until my 29th week (with twins) and finally have stopped completely (this week) because of risk of correlary contractions and the biting, omg, the biting! Also, btw- He's never been sick, not once.

New Year's resolution- to try to remain sane with three babies! ;)

And Mary Beth? I want your ped. :)

Jessica

addendum- There is, btw, very little info on breastfeeding while pregnant. And, although we are thrilled and happy and wouldn't have it any other way, let me just say- lactational amenorrhea? My ass! I was pregnant again at nine weeks after giving birth and we were using condoms. There you have it.

hedra

Lessee. We don't do resolutions, either. We do an analysis of what would improve the quality of our lives, and try to add that. This year, I asked my mom to take the kids for two hours on a weekend day at least once a month so we can get 'ahead' on some of the projects/tasks/organization issues. Or just housekeeping. Sometimes that's the priority! (Okay, most of the time, LOL!)

As for my kids? Typical 'oversupply' babies. I don't recall the exact numbers for the older two, but it was something like 1 to 1.5 lbs per WEEK, for the first three months, then 3/4 - 1 lb per week for the second three months, about 1 lb total in the next three months (total SKIDS on weight gain), and a few ounces total in the next three months. ROCKET growth followed by slow growth on weight, and tracking a curve perfectly on length.

Meriel and Rowan, being twins, started out a lot smaller, and crossed up-chart fairly quickly, going from 25th%ile and about 20th%ile to 75th%ile and 60th%ile in a year. Twins may chart climb for as much as 8 years to get up to their 'singleton' growth percentile, though (at least, according to Danish research, where they actually keep a database on growth for all kids who see doctors).

Fortunately, our family doc is a breastfeeding advocate, educated by breastfeeding moms. He only says when the minimum limits are (he did say 'officially, I can tell you that you can start solids whenever you want now that your baby is 4 months old. I don't expect you to do so until he/she is ready, and you'd be the best judge of that, not me.'). He also backed me up when I freaked about my second son chart-crossing back DOWN starting around 18 months (typical chart-correction starts either in the first year or by the first birthday, NOT after that point - atypical chart crossing usually indicates SOMETHING, even if not something major - in our case, multiple carbohydrate intolerances).

I don't know what doctors are learning these days, but nutrition class seems to have been trimmed much harder than ever before. And they didn't get much nutrition training in the old days, either! If you need to fatten them up, at least fatten them with QUALITY foods! Avocados, anyone?

I'd also advocate strongly for leaving a short letter with the doctors people are leaving, saying why you are leaving. It can really help them to understand that they're losing patients because the patients feel strongly that they are getting advice that is in direct conflict with AAP standards and recommendations, nutrition and development research, current guidelines on breastfeeding, etc. Leaving and saying nothing won't do a thing to help the moms who are still going there, and who trust the doctor more than those of us who quit them do...

Charisse

Hey Jessica, my ass as well! Got my cycle back at 11 weeks, with a child at the breast 8-9 hours out of the 24. Most of my friends got a break of over a year. Oy.

Linda

Mmmmm . . . ranch dressing. Yum.

Baby A - 5 lbs 9 oz at birth
6 months - 16 lbs
Crawled, um, sometime in here
1 year - 19 lbs

Baby B - 6 lbs 4 oz at birth
6 months - 17 lbs
Crawled eventually, not sure when
1 year - 22 lbs

CathyY

I would seriously exit the exam room if my pediatrician made such a suggestion. That goes for both stopping nursing and Cheetos... RIGHT.

I don't have my daughter's stats handy because, you know, that would require me to walk down the hall, but she's always been a strong eater and never had a lag in weight gain.

CathyY

PS And my resolution is to stay in better contact with family and friends.

Brooke

Very timely for us as well. Sanna is definately the smallest baby here.

She was 6 lbs 2 oz at birth, and she was 9 days post dates.
At 6.5 months she weighed 13 lbs 3 oz
She started "crawling" at 7.5 months
At 9.5 months she weighed just shy of 15 lbs.
Now at 10.5 months she weighs 15lbs 10 oz.

I wish our doctor were less concerned about Sanna's weight. I think she's just small, but we get to keep a food diary and see a nutritionist.

Purple_Kangaroo

Baby E stopped gaining weight completely for about 6 months, and even then my doctors weren't worried. She was about 9 lbs at birth, 20 lbs by age 6 months, 20 lbs at one year, and at 17 months is now around 23 lbs.

I don't think it's a coincidence, though, that she stopped gaining weight (though she continued growing in height) exactly when we introduced solids and started gaining again exactly when we removed corn (one of her major allergens) from her diet. The changes didn't correlate at all with when she started crawling or walking.

Here's a graph of her growth curve where you can see it: https://purplekangaroopuzzle.blogspot.com/2006/11/coincidence-or-correlation.html

shaynee

We've had some experience with the weight-gain issue for my daughter.

Birth: 5 lbs, 11 ounces (four weeks early)
6 months: 14 lbs, 1 ounce
9 months: 15 lbs, 8 ounces
1 year: 17 lbs, 5 ounces
2 years: around 22 pounds (we'll see when she goes in for her check in a couple of weeks)
"commando" crawl at 8 months, "true" crawl at 9 months

My pediatrician did recommend some weight-gain measures but was pretty laid-back about her suggestions. The main reason she even brought it up was because my daughter's weight fell steadily from about the 20th percentile to the 3rd between 4 and 9 months of age. This drop crossed a couple of growth isobars, which was a bigger change than anticipated. Also, my daughter was not eating solids at 9 months. We had started introducing them at 6 months, but she didn't like the texture of blended food. So at 9 months she had probably eaten a grand total of 10 ounces of "solid" food. She also was still nursing every 2 to 3 hours during the day and 3 to 4 at night, eating for less than 5 minutes at a time. She was basically snacking throughout the day instead of eating calorie-packed meals.

As a result, our ped recommended pushing the solids, adding fat when we could (butter to potatoes, etc., although no Cheetos with ranch were suggested), and cutting the number of nursing sessions so she would eat for longer periods. In the end, we went through a lot of avocados and dropped the number of nursing sessions from 8 or 9 to 4 or so.

As you can see from her numbers, she's still pretty small, but I think she's just going to be petite. Our doctor concurs, but just wants to keep an eye on her growth. Sometimes it seems odd that I know 8-month-old kids who weigh as much as my 2-year-old, but oh well. She's growing steadily along her own curve and doing everything else within a "normal" range. So she seems healthy. I hope this helps anyone who's feeling a little concerned about their kids' growth.

Lisa

T. was 6 1/2 lbs. at birth. Don't have the stats here, but he went from the 15th to the 40th and back to the 15th percentile. Now he's 11 months and 18 lbs. Our doc was fine with this - we're smallish people and he gets the thing about active babies. (T. crawled at 6 1/2 months and hasn't stopped since. He also breastfed nonstop up until about 10 months; still an avid nurser but at longer intervals now that he's more into solids.)

However, we recently found that part of the growth slowdown was due to severe anemia - seems I have a genetic defect that, though my own iron levels are fine, keeps me from transmitting much iron in my milk. So now T's on iron drops, still nursing, growing again. But I'd advise folks to do the anemia blood test at the 9-month checkup rather than the 12-month one, if offered a choice. (Our ped. was going to do it at 12 months but I requested 9, just on intuition.)

Carla Hinkle

New Year's Res:
#1: Have baby #2! (Due Jan. 20).
#2: Recover from having baby, look good for bridesmaid's duty in Sept.

Daughter: BF til 9 months, solids around 6 months, crawling around 8 months. Seems to follow Moxie's "classic" pattern.

Birth: 7 lbs 5 oz
4 months: 13 lbs
6 months: 15 lbs
12 months: 19 lbs
2 years: 30 lbs

casey

My son isn't crawling yet (he started scooting around in circles the other day, at 5.5 mos), but our pediatrician is like yours - she's not concerned about our son's weight gain because he'll slim down a lot when he gets more active. Very pro-breastfeeding and not pushing solids too early (Dr. Elizabeth Swider in Evanston, IL). Anyway, at 5.5 mos., my son is over 23 lbs and 28 inches. Off the charts, but I'm hoping not for long once he gets a move-on.

Amy F

Baby 1:
Birth--9 lbs 7 oz
6 mo--about 22 lbs. Started crawling a week later. He lost at least half a pound before gaining again.
12 mo--24 lbs
24 mo--30 lbs
33 mo--33-34 lbs

Baby 2:
Birth--9 lbs 2 oz
Began crawling just before hitting 6 months.
6 mo--about 18 lbs.
Currently almost 10 months and just under 20 lbs.

Karie

I thought it was normal for babies to "chunk out" before crawling and then slim down due to crawling/walking all over the place.

That's what my bear did. She's always been tall (20" at birth) and now at age 2 is really shooting up (off the chart at 36 1/2") We're spending a fortune on pants and shoes!

Here are her stats (BF for 9 mos)and a good eater all along. Although now she wants to live on macaroni & cheese...

Birth 7 lbs 8 oz
4 mos 13 lbs
6 mos 16 lbs
9 mos 21 lbs (started crawling)
12 mos 23 lbs (walking at 10 mos)
24 mos 29 lbs

Resolution: take more weekend getaways, just the 3 of us

Joanne

New Year's resolution is to speak my mind more. I've always been overly concerned about other people's feelings but sometimes at the expense of my own feelings and opinions. Don't want my little one picking up the habit.

Our Daughter weighed 7-11 at birth, 16lbs at six months. Mastered crawling just in the past two weeks and is now eight months. We're breasfeeding like the dickens!

Our Ped is very old school ("Go ahead! She can have citrus and strawberries!") He's a nice enough guy and sings all the time which soothes the little ones. We started on solids at around six months and she devours everything I give her (organic baby food, fruits, barley cereal, cheerios, bread, soy milk, homemade biscuits) He's never been concerned about our daughter's size, and describes her as "long and lean". Husband and I are pretty slim.

And OMG to the Cheetos and Ranch Dressing. I find that quite astonishing coming from a medical professional.

O

Holy Moses, I'm so sad for people with these pediatricians.
I'm tired and on a rant so I'll start with the main point: is anyone looking at these "underweight" kids by the weight chart? There are certain curves that are "normal," and there is lots of room for variation within them.
Son #1 was 9lb 14oz at birth, 24lbs by 6 months (all breastmilk), walked by 11 months to my chagrin, and weighed 28 lbs by 1 year. Now he's 3+ and 40lbs. and 40 inches tall. Never once did my doctor worry about his weight because he followed the curve. He started big, he's continuing to be big, that's just who he is. He's a very solid little boy who is a pound an inch.
Son #2 was 10 pounds, 10 oz. at birth (yeah, OUCH). He is now 16 months and 22 lbs. He feels like styrofoam after his brother, but my ped just laughs because he, too, follows the curve. I was worried after the big beefy brother, and after the enormous start weight, that #2's weight gain was too slow. But my ped always talked me down, and while she encourages whole milk and butter until age 2 it's all about proteins and brain development and not a smidge about weight.
And while she's not a huge BF supporter necessarily, she has never suggested for a second that BFing had any drawbacks for anyone but me. (Tiredness, etc.)
Good luck to all & someone should remind Dr. Cheeto to "first do no harm!" Sheesh. Not that I'm above giving my kids cheesy poofs (as we call them in our house) but wow, not as part of anything resembling a nutritional plan.

O

And the resolution: to go on a date once a month with my husband. Can't wait.
Learned a long time ago that happy resolutions have a much better chance than self-flagellating ones. Good luck to all.

Elizabeth

My resolution: to try and work on my perfectionism, in a very imperfect way, of course. My daughter's stats: 6lb.8oz. at birth, around 15 lbs. at 6 months, 18 lbs. at 1 year. Now she is 19 months and only 21 lbs.! But she doesn't look particularly skinny.

Elizabeth

Oh, I forgot to put that she started crawling just shy of 10 months and walked at 13 months.

snickollet

All of this just makes me love my pediatrician more and more. She has repeatedly told me and my husband that once our twins start crawling, their weight gain will level out and they may well drop in percentiles on those horrid charts and that it's perfectly normal, especially for breastfed babies. It makes perfect sense: all of a sudden, you start to move a ton more, ergo burn way more calories, but you don't necessarily take way more calories in.

Anyways, data points:

Boy/Girl Twins; Breastfed; Started solids about three weeks ago, just before six-month b-day:
Birth: 6 lbs, 11 oz (boy); 7 lbs (girl)
4 Months: Both around 12 lbs? I think?
6 Months: 17 lbs, 4 ounces (boy); 16 lbs, 10 ounces (girl)

Neither one is crawling yet. They don't even roll over! They just like to sit.

Jessica

That is some of the craziest advice I have ever heard!

My daughter's stats:
Birth - 8 lbs, 6oz, 19 3/4"
6 Months - 17 lbs, 3 oz, 27 1/2"
Age 1 - 23 lbs, 1 oz, 31 "
Now (age 3 3/4) - I think about 40" and 34 lb.
Started crawling at 8.5 months and walking at 11 months

My son:
Birth - 9 lbs, 10 oz, 21 "
Six Months - 19 lbs, 4 oz, 27"
Now ( 8 months, 3 weeks) - Based on his clothes and the inexact method of weighing him on our bathroom scale, 21.5lbs and 30"
He started crawling at 7 months and started seriously cruising over the holiday weekend.

Both children were/are breastfed and started solids at about 5 1/2 months. My daughter was snuck some rice cereal prior to then by my mother and was also always supplemented with one bottle of formula a day due to some initial health problems on my part. She self-weaned at about 11 months. My son was exclusively breastfed until we started solids this fall. He still nurses 4-5 times a day/night and eats three solid meals a day, which are a modified version of what we eat.

My daughter had some serious digestive issues between ages one and two, and her weight curve did drop noticeably during that time. My pediatrician, in addition to agreeing that weight should slow down once the child is mobile, told me two things at that time that I think might be of interest here. (These thoughts were later confirmed by both our new ped when we moved and the two pediatric GI specialists she has seen.) #1--Just because you have a big/chubby baby doesn't mean that he/she will be high on the weight curve forever. My daughter was at one point (4 months) in the 95% percentile for weight. Her father and I are more like in the 10-30% for weight in our heights, and we were both slender growing up, but we are also both 9lb+ at birth. The doctor told us that in all likelihood that all of our children would be like this and that while they would be high on the weight curve as babies, they would slowly drop down the curve during their toddler years to match my husband and myself. She said that if the weight drop was drastic (like 90% at one check up and 10% at the next) then there would be cause for concern. But a slow and steady decline in big babies who have average to slender weight parents isn't in any way abnormal.
#2 - The more important indicator in children this age is height. If there was a significant drop in the height curve from one check-up to the next that could be a sign of a nutritional deficit or an even more serious problem.

Her advice has certainly held true for my daughter. Even after her digestive issues cleared up, she still continues to drop on the weight curve. But she is growing taller every second. Our ped is not at all concerned and thinks her weight curve will level out this year and remain consistent where it is (I think about 15%) until her teen years. This is also exactly the same growth pattern that my perfectly healthy 10 year old niece has had, and they very strongly resemble one another.

My resolutions—To focus on taking better care of myself physically, devote more time to my husband/marriage and work on being a better organized person who doesn’t over-commit herself! Oh, also to stop being such a potty-mouth.

wood from sweetjuniper

My new year's resolutions are all about being more productive and creative. Instead of just getting by day to day, I'd like to start learning new things again.

Data points on my kid: she's small.
At birth, 7.5 lbs, 6 months, 14 lbs, crawled at 7.5 months, 1 year 17 lbs. Her big weight plateau happened once she started walking and sleeping (mostly) through the night around 14 months. Now that she's almost 2, I think she's maybe 21 lbs.

Meira

I, too, am astounded by the 'cheetos and ranch dressing' assvice. What the hell was that doc thinking? I mean, why not just hook them up to an IV of trans fats & red dye #40 and throw this whole silly idea of "nutrition" out the window once and for all?

Gah!

Purple_Kangaroo

Another blogger I know has a nutritionist telling her to not give her child water, but rather a mixture of melted ice cream and heavy cream to drink, and to drizzle canola oil on all her 2-year-old's food.

The "no water" restriction seems odd to me. Doesn't everybody need water?

Molly

My resolution this year was to 'Live the Dream'. How this relates to parenting is to fear less and enjoy more; plan less and play more; and to read less and talk more!

I don't know my daughter's stats. She came to me when she was 3 years old, born in Kazakhstan and lived there for first 3 years of her life. She has always been in the .02 percentile for weight and height, but the thing is that she's healthy as a horse: she's growing steadily, she sleeps really well, she's eating beautifully, and her poops are good, too (what can I say, only a mother would understand.)

hedra

PK, actually, no, you don't *need* water as water, necessarily. That research is flawed. However, since most of our current diet is not fairly raw vegetable matter and fresh meats and dairy products (high liquid content foods), the amount of water we get from our foods is limited, so current US/Western diet typically does need additional water. (Consider: Not much water consumption in areas with contaminated water, for example.) Liquids, yes, useful. Water, not necessarily. Certainly breastfed babies/children don't 'need' water. Water is needed in some form, but can be included in the diet in 'food' form and in other liquids. Milk and even cream is pretty high in water content.

If a child is FTT or has a feeding disorder or medical condition that makes it hard for them to ingest enough calories, then yeah, some of the nutritional advice is 'any way to get calories in, as thick as possible, go for it' - the cheetos and ranch dressing is a possibly reasonable option for a child with severe food aversions who will only tolerate 'high feedback' (salty/fatty/sweet) foods, and needs calories, any calories, any way they can get them in. They'll work on moving to 'better' foods later, but calories are first. Ice cream and cream and canola oil are commonly advised for kids in that category. Also avocado, nuts if they're over a certain age, butter, full-fat yogurt, full-fat meats, etc. These kids often have faulty hunger signals (or none, like my eldest suffered), and so will drink water and then not eat because they don't recognize/register the 'still hungry, still need to eat' and instead react with 'stomach appears full, I'm done'. They drink, and reduce the amount of calories they take in otherwise.

But that's for specific issues that are problems, *not* typical weight drop in second half of first year (heck, my BIL is a speech language pathologist, worked with kids with feeding disorders for a while, and they didn't even count under-a-year OR pre-weaning-from-breastmilk as a baseline for weight changes! It was 'over a year AND weaned' as a baseline for weight gain issues, unless there was another marker involved, like signs of aversion, listlessness, dehydration signs, length percentile drop below 3rd %ile, etc.).

So, no the nutritionists aren't all idiots, here. We're talking special cases, though. And I'd be seeing a feeding clinic for that level of advice, NOT a pediatrician. They're just not qualified for that level of detailed guidance on diet. And as decribed, they can provide it very badly for the wrong reasons when they do think they know enough to dispense the advice. (Pediatricians are noted for stepping outside their expertise and thinking they're qualified to do so, for some reason... I've heard some rants on that from other specialists.)

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